In a book of child psychiatry learned that an emotional issue for many children is the lack of self-confidence. And how to get to grow up safe and form a balanced personality? The author identified three fundamental pillars: the affection, stability and constancy.
The child needs to feel loved by their parents and educators and agree with their virtues and weaknesses.
The environmental and regulatory framework must be stable. The rules of conduct in the family can not change overnight, as the mood of the father, or if you are tired or have things gone wrong at work. The rules must be agreed by both parents and can not be changed without a good reason. This is stability.
Those operating norms must be constant, i.e., for all days alike. The boy can guess what will happen tomorrow remembering what happened yesterday and the day before. With these three things a child will have a reference framework that will give you security.
But often are their own parents and educators who create insecure in their children through” pedagogy wobbly.” It will be formulated rules of conduct for today and tomorrow are no longer valid. A teacher said that “school is where more laws are given and where they are least fulfilled.” Educators, who behave like that, provoke insecurity in the learner and, indirectly, they push to them to defy with a haughty behavior, to their parents and teachers.
Children need loving parents, stable and consistent in its rules and decisions, that today reacting as they did yesterday and will do the same thing tomorrow and the day after. It needs to set limits with love for the sake of your child and insist on respect each other. Kids need strong parents who do not hesitate or falter, but they must know exactly what they want for themselves and their families. With such kind of educators, learners feel safe, welcome and happy.
Sometimes we remember the visit of a relative or friend with a child unfriendly, angry, tyrannical, used to always call the attention and failing to obey when called to order. In these situations, older people do not know whether imposed or compromise to avoid a scolding that leaves more uncomfortable to the parents that the child.
In conclusion, we could say that a boy that not find around himself a signage and demarcation reasonable and reasoned it becomes unsafe or nervous.